If you know someone who's being bullied

Firstly, thank you for being a good person who is trying to help put things right: you would not be reading this page if that wasn't how you felt.

There are three constructive things you can do:

1. Support the person being bullied

Part of this is about friendship: if they are seeming to be withdrawing from social activity, invite them out. Make sure the bully or bullies won't be there!

Part of this is about building them up: bullying can really damage self-esteem. Your mission as a good friend is to help the person see that they matter to you.

Part of this is about getting them good support; for example from:

  • University wellbeing services: click here for more information

  • University counselling services: click here for more information

  • University chaplaincy team: click here for more information

Do not try to do everything yourself or you might find your friend becomes unhealthily dependant on you.

2. Do something about the bully

If they're doing it on purpose, then see if the person being bullied wants your help reporting things.

  • The University can take disciplinary action against bullies under its student behaviour policy or staff code of conduct if the bully is connected with the University and you make a complaint about what's happening.

  • In cases of severe harassment, the police may get involved, and our Campus Copper (PC Simon Stone) is a really approachable chap. Click here for more information on our campus police officers.

If you think the bullying is accidental, can you approach the bully? NB: do not under any circumstances put your own safety at risk. If you can, a friendly word might be all it takes to change the bully's behaviour. If you can't, or can't do so safely, seek further advice from us at the Student Advice Centre if you're not sure how to handle things.

3. Take care of yourself too

You will not be helping your friend long-term if he or she ends up depending on your for everything.

You will not be helping anyone if you take on too much and hurt your own wellbeing.

Get support for yourself

  • University wellbeing services: click here for more information

  • University counselling services: click here for more information

  • University chaplaincy team: click here for more information

Encourage your friend to get professional support: click here to see our advice page for people who are being bullied.